Infertility Led Successful Realtor to Trust God’s Timing

Amanda Regamble (Crosby, ’06) has seen many successes throughout her career journey. Beginning with building her own business selling signboard advertisements at a sporting arena while a student at Trinity Western, she’s gone on to become one of Vancouver’s top real estate agents. Time and time again, Amanda has set her sights on a goal and been tenacious in achieving it.

“I’m someone who when I want to do something, I do it,” says Amanda.

But despite having a track record of success with the many things within her realm of control, there was one area of her life that proved to be much more difficult to manage than she ever expected.

The Pregnancy Journey

Around 2014, Amanda and her husband Scott decided that they wanted to start their family. But much to their dismay and confusion, Amanda had considerable difficulty getting pregnant.

They tried for five years without success. During that time, they went to various doctors, clinics, and specialists, but nothing seemed to help, and no one had any answers for them. One theory was that it might be related to the stress of her job. Both she and her husband Scott were realtors, and since she was licensed in 2007, Amanda had been working extensive hours—often late into the evenings and on weekends.

“I had been working too hard, too much, and burnt out multiple times,” says Amanda. She knew she needed a break, so she stepped away from her work in 2017 and unplugged from everything.

“I went on a sabbatical for three months. Exchanged my iPhone for a flip phone and gave up my work and all social media,” says Amanda. “I’m really grateful for that season to slow everything down.”

But despite the much-needed change of pace, she still wasn’t able to get pregnant.

No matter what they tried over the course of five years, nothing seemed to work. In many ways, it was a discouraging season, but she says her and Scott were blessed by the support of a strong, loving community.

“We had such good community around us. Many of them are TWU grads. They cried with us, prayed with us, fasted on and off for years for us. It was a real journey together,” says Amanda. “In that time, pretty much all of our friends had kids, and they let us love on them like they were our own. We got to benefit from being loving aunts and uncles. It was a real gift!”

GOD’S THOUGHTS ARE NOT OUR THOUGHTS

Near the end of this five-year journey, Amanda says she came to some pretty significant realizations.

“I’m hesitant to share this because it’s the last thing you want to hear when you’re in a situation like this,” says Amanda. “But for us, we really got to a point where we realized it wasn’t about what we wanted.”

“We can so easily be misled by the idea that the Lord will give us the desires of our heart, and because we wanted a baby, that means we should get one,” says Amanda. “But we got to a place—I would say with tears—where we saw it’s not just about our desires. If we weren’t supposed to have a baby, it would be okay.”

It was in this time that the words of Isaiah 55:8-9 directly spoke to them.

“For my thoughts are not your thoughts, neither are your ways my ways,” declares the Lord. “As the heavens are higher than the earth, so are my ways higher than your ways and my thoughts than your thoughts.”

Amanda believes these verses embody the journey that they came through.

“We came to see that whether we have a baby or not, we’ll be okay. And somehow, out of that, we got a baby,” Amanda says.

No one is quite sure what changed on a medical level, but soon after coming to decision to completely give over her desire to God, Amanda became pregnant. On April 16th, 2018, she gave birth to Arden James Regamble.

Reflecting on the Journey

Although it was a difficult experience, Amanda says she learned so much and is a better person today because of it. One thing she’s noticed is that she’s developed more empathy for others who are in periods of waiting or hardship, like those who are single and desperately want to be married or those who are sick and praying for healing.

“So much is beyond our control,” says Amanda. “I truly believe God’s timing is not ours.”

Whatever lies ahead for the Regamble family, this experience has taught them to submit their desires before the Lord and to wait on Him, His timing, and His will, no matter the outcome.